Thursday, July 10, 2014

Violent Sexual Fantasies?

Girl Boner Radio is at it again! I'm thrilled to be featured in the "Sex-pert Celebration" honoring the 25th podcast where August McLaughlin takes on her listener's most challenging questions. Like this one:


How can someone explore violent sexual fantasies? 

Thanks, August, for inviting me to weigh in! Click here to listen to my response. (Which starts at 1:40.)



Saturday, July 5, 2014

Curious is the New Sexy

You asked for it, you got it. My new workshop, "Kinky Curious: A Workshop of Discovery and Discussion" is coming to Los Angeles on July 26th. Details below!


Ready for an enticing event with an open-minded group? Interested in talking about sex in a safe and welcoming environment? Want to see a portion of the sexy play, "Coming Out Kinky"? It’s going to be an educational and fun session!



Here's what we'll do:



Opening Circle: This activity creates a safe, comfortable environment to talk about sexuality.



Coming Out Kinky: Jean will perform a sizzling excerpt of her show about erotic exploration and empowerment.



Q&A and Lively Discussion: the sharing during this section can be vulnerable, powerful and sexy



Sexual Bucket List Game – It's a fun way to discover avenues of curiosity



Cost: $30


To reserve your spot, email Jean@JeanFranzblau.com

About Kinky Jean: When Jean Franzblau was a little girl, she believed that sex must be bad and made the impossible commitment to never be sexual. The show tracks her unusual path of exploration as she discovers that sex is a natural and wonderful part of the human experience. Jean is the writer/performer and producer of the show, "Coming Out Kinky - A Grown Up Comedy." She's also a corporate training professional with experience giving presentations in six countries for up to three hundred people. She offers workshops, keynotes and performances on sexual esteem and empowerment - like this one!



Stay in touch at https://www.facebook.com/ComingOutKinky and here at KinkyJean.com.

Monday, June 30, 2014

Claiming My Sexual Freedom


After years of blocking my sexual energy, I had a health scare. I think there's a connection. Expressing my sexuality consensually is a human right that I claim for myself. Won't you join me in becoming an advocate for sexual freedom? Check out the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance to learn more about what's happening! 



Saturday, June 21, 2014

Sexual Esteem, Part 3 - Body Image

We all deserve to feel happy and whole. That includes how we feel about our sexuality. In this third video in the series on Sexual Esteem, we tackle body image. The cards are stacked against us given the pervasive messages in the media that try to convince us all that we are not okay. Here are two simple but powerful exercises that you can try right now to improve your body image. Try! And let me know what you think below.


Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Sexual Esteem, Part 2

I waited a few days before posting this one. A feeling of terror: am I really going to put this out there? I've watched it a few times now. I see a kind woman who cares about the viewer and is trying to make a difference in the world. So I guess this is a keeper.

I give you video #2 in my series about sexual self esteem.


Monday, June 2, 2014

Sexual Esteem, Part 1

We all deserve to feel happy and whole. That includes how we feel about our sexuality. This is the first in a series of videos about sexual esteem. In Part 1, we explore a simple exercise called the Sexual Did Well List. Join in, try it out, and comment below.

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Fired

My client – a consulting company for the healthcare industry – left me a voicemail that she’d like to speak to me right away. I’d just finished facilitating a four-hour webinar for a government agency that went really well. I imagined that my healthcare client wanted to schedule me for some upcoming presentation. Especially given that our gig last month about customer service went really well at that local hospital.

“I was doing some research online,” she said, and then I knew. I knew that this was the call I’d been afraid of for over a year.

I’ve been privately writing about my personal growth and sexuality for quite some time. I was experiencing something that I call “sexual esteem.” I was feeling good about myself - more whole, more relaxed in my world. This new kind of esteem came my way due to my willingness to follow my own sexual curiosity - even if it led me to really unusual places.

These journal entries turned into essays; I wanted to share what I was learning. Yet I felt an equally strong pull to take it slow. First I shared it with only my lover. Then I attended a workshop and got used to hearing my words said out loud. Later, I asked a group of women friends to come over for a private reading. “Am I crazy?” I asked. “This is brave work.” They told me. “This is important,” they told me. “Keep going,” they told me.

Next came a short, public reading at a local storytelling event. A woman in her twenties came up to me afterward and thanked me really hard - her eyes looking deep into mine. She’s the one I’m writing for. And me. We.

I was careful not to pair my real name with this material on the internet. I was a corporate person after all. “I need to keep my reputation clean,” I told myself. I didn’t want to one day receive a call from a client…

I pressed on and hired an expert to help me develop a full production. And a play was born: Coming Out Kinky – A Grown Up Story. But how would I afford to put it up?

I turned to Indiegogo.com. Putting my show on this platform would invite people from around the world to support the show. I would have to be willing to be seen. My name, this show. The campaign was the subject of blogs, tweets, posts and interviews and raised over $12,000.

And I still feared the call. The call where someone would tell me, “What you are doing is unacceptable. As a punishment, we are taking your livelihood away.”

And here it is at last.

“I can’t work with you anymore,” my client said. We had $1,800 of work pending. That matters to me. I tried to offer a different perspective.

“Don’t fool yourself,” she told me. “Calling what you are doing sex education ennobles you.” I felt her disgust. I was too flustered to tell her that I’ve been asked to perform my show as part of a course for psychotherapists about alternative sexual expression. Literally sex education.

As soon as we hung up, I went to my website and saw it through her eyes. I felt a wave of shame. I called a friend. I took a walk.

Back at my desk, I opened up the review that had just been written about my show on StageRaw.com. Apparently, it’s been selected as one of the top ten in Los Angeles. Top ten.

I spend the next hour sharing the review with enthusiastic supporters, loved ones and friends. And find myself enjoying the rest of my day. 

I survived the call. It is a special day indeed.