When I came home from camp and showed the toy to my lover, he looked at it and didn’t say a word. The next day he acknowledged that he was afraid of it. That’s because he could tell from the look of it that it may be intended for prostate play. He was correct! The Fun Wand is intended for the G-spot and the (prostate) P-spot stimulation.
The Fun Wand is stainless steel and really yummy to hold and touch. It’s also heavy. When I asked my lover to experiment with the toy, the first thing I did was hold it up to the width of my finger. (He has experienced my finger in him a few times.) The toy was not much bigger. I think this helped my partner feel less overwhelmed.
The issue of using this toy on my partner – it’s a big deal. He has a lot of shame around anal play. And there’s profound vulnerability for him in being penetrated – it affects him emotionally. So kudos to him for his courage!
My first inclination was to cover it with a condom for easy clean up. But this toy is so easy to clean, there was no need for that. My partner got to feel the smoothness and the coolness of the toy. I did some research – if I dipped it in warm water it would be warm and yummy and if I put it in the refrigerator, it would be cool to the touch. So there were options.
We used silicone lubricant – it’s a wonderful lube for anal play. I began with my finger – gently on the outside. I kept checking in with him; we had lots of eye contact. When he was ready, I inserted it super slowly. He was ready, and we took our time.
I was touched and delighted to have the opportunity to be the one who gently, lovingly and respectfully penetrates.
What was a joy for me is that my partner began asking me to try different things. So his shame was gone and was replaced by curiosity. We found several spots that were really pleasurable and special for my partner. This was such a turn-on for me.
I’m looking forward to using the Njoy Fun Wand for my solo play and lots more with my partner. I like this toy and would recommend it wholeheartedly.
Where you can find the Njoy Fun Wand? Njoytoys.com.