Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Sex Toy Review: Njoy Fun Wand


Thank you for going on this vulnerable journey with me - this is my very first sex toy review. Njoy Pure Fun was one of the sponsors of Sex Geek Summer Camp 2014, and boy were these toys in demand! Mine was packaged in a black box nestled in hot pink fabric.

When I came home from camp and showed the toy to my lover, he looked at it and didn’t say a word. The next day he acknowledged that he was afraid of it. That’s because he could tell from the look of it that it may be intended for prostate play. He was correct! The Fun Wand is intended for the G-spot and the (prostate) P-spot stimulation.

The Fun Wand is stainless steel and really yummy to hold and touch. It’s also heavy. When I asked my lover to experiment with the toy, the first thing I did was hold it up to the width of my finger. (He has experienced my finger in him a few times.) The toy was not much bigger. I think this helped my partner feel less overwhelmed.

The issue of using this toy on my partner – it’s a big deal.  He has a lot of shame around anal play. And there’s profound vulnerability for him in being penetrated – it affects him emotionally. So kudos to him for his courage!

My first inclination was to cover it with a condom for easy clean up. But this toy is so easy to clean, there was no need for that. My partner got to feel the smoothness and the coolness of the toy. I did some research – if I dipped it in warm water it would be warm and yummy and if I put it in the refrigerator, it would be cool to the touch. So there were options.

We used silicone lubricant – it’s a wonderful lube for anal play. I began with my finger – gently on the outside. I kept checking in with him; we had lots of eye contact. When he was ready, I inserted it super slowly. He was ready, and we took our time.

I was touched and delighted to have the opportunity to be the one who gently, lovingly and respectfully penetrates.

What was a joy for me is that my partner began asking me to try different things. So his shame was gone and was replaced by curiosity. We found several spots that were really pleasurable and special for my partner. This was such a turn-on for me.

I’m looking forward to using the Njoy Fun Wand for my solo play and lots more with my partner. I like this toy and would recommend it wholeheartedly.


Where you can find the Njoy Fun Wand? Njoytoys.com.

Friday, August 29, 2014

How Can You Explore Kink Confidentially?

There's a whole population of curious people who are intrigued by kink but are afraid to be "found out." This post offers four tips for those who'd like to keep their perverted sides private.



1. Don’t Do Your Kinky Research at Work or on a School Computer

Most companies have computer policies where they reserve the right to track any website you visit. To keep your peace of mind, enjoy your online explorations on your own computer, tablet or phone.

2. Create a New Email Address

Chances are your research will begin online – you’ll find books, videos, social websites and blogs. Start a fresh email address that’s for your sexy explorations only. Use a pseudonym that has nothing to do with your name, where you live or where you work or go to school – have fun creating a new identity:

BootyLover
GreyEyedSub
HoodedRaven

This is the email address that you’ll use for your online communities like FetLife or your online subscriptions – to KinkAcademy for instance.


3. Use Anonymous Photos

Make your profile photos anonymous by not including your face.

One friend – Ruby Ryder – posts a photo that shows off just her sexy shoes. Another friend flaunts only her bodiced body below the neck.

This can be a fun and creative way for you to express yourself.

Another point about photos, if you’re at a kinky event, don’t pose for photos. It would be very easy for someone to accidentally tag you on Facebook – which you probably don't want.

4. Be Very Selective About Giving Out Your Phone Number

Does your phone number reveal your identity? Try entering it into Google to check. And only give your number away to people that you have a reason to trust.


Go forth my private and perverted ones, and good luck in your explorations!

Here's Ruby!

Monday, August 18, 2014

Getting Through TSA With Sex Toys In Your Carry-On

The TSA (Transportation Security Administration) has the right to open and look through a traveler's private stuff. Do you ever worry about traveling with sex toys because of the potential embarrassment of being questioned about them by the TSA? This concern can be enough for sexy travelers to leave their gear at home.

In this video featuring Katrina RainSong, Kenneth Play and yours truly was created to encourage all of us to be sex-positive and proud. There is nothing illegal about traveling with sex toys. Just make sure to take your lube in a container that's 3.4 ounces or less and keep it in your plastic bag with other liquid items.

Also, for those of us into BDSM, if you have toys that look a lot like weapons, leave 'em at home.




Saturday, August 9, 2014

Sex Geek

My name is Jean Franzblau, and I’m a Sex Geek.

The term Sex Geek was coined by Reid Mihalko and has caught on like wildfire. Tons of us have our own t-shirts. We not only feel cool when we wear them, we are also helping Reid to promote his brand.

From Reid's website


Clever of him, yes?

The Sex Geek concept is just one of scores of great ideas that have helped Reid turn sex education into a thriving business. And as an idea-man and skilled business-maven, Reid is the perfect guy to produce the first ever summer camp to help sex educators improve in business. It’s called Sex Geek Summer Camp.

As I write, I am jetting east from Los Angeles towards West Virginia where I will spend the next five days immersed in learning, planning, networking and playing. It feels like the most productive, happy vacation that I can imagine. And this very fact tells me that I am finally on the right path.

It’s taken quite a while.

Seven years ago, I attended a class about how to build a business as a keynote speaker. I knew that keynotes would one day be part of my path, but what would I talk about?

The topic I was developing at the time was customer service. I chose customer service for logical reasons – I had experience in that world and there was demand for it. Inwardly it felt flat and grey.

One litmus test for knowing one has found the right topic is this question: would you keep up to date on this subject in your free time? Read customer service articles in my free time? Hells no. It wasn't yet time for me to do keynotes. I hadn't yet found "the thing." And so I tucked my class notes away to see what life would bring.

And life brought sex: a sexy play, several sexy workshops, new sexy friends and a whole new life steeped in the topic of sexuality. This is a subject that continues to keep me riveted. I am happy to spend my free time at events, workshops and retreats. I found my “hells yes” topic. My thing!

The flight captain has announced that we’ll be landing soon. It’s time to tuck away the laptop, look at the clouds and acknowledge how lucky I am.

My name is Jean Franzblau, and I am indeed a Sex Geek.


I was finally able to post this on the first day of camp. Look, I found blackberries!

Thursday, July 31, 2014

Cuffed, Tied and Satisfied

Oh boy, do I have a book to recommend. Sex educator and author - Jaiya - has hit this one out of the park. Or perhaps I should say she spanked it.


Jaiya's new book, Cuffed, Tied and Satisfied explains kink in easy-to-understand language with stories, examples and deep research. 

Jaiya and her partner spent eighty days exploring dominance and submission with each other. Her journal entries during this experience are powerful and educational.

I'm a fan. If the subject matter intrigues you, you will be too. Here's the link to get it.

(Note: This link is part of Amazon's affiliate program. If you buy the book, I get an itsy bitsy piece of that purchase. So thank you.)

Thursday, July 10, 2014

What to Do About Violent Sexual Fantasies

Girl Boner Radio is at it again! I'm thrilled to be featured in the "Sex-pert Celebration" honoring the 25th podcast where August McLaughlin takes on her listener's most challenging questions. Like this one:


How can someone explore violent sexual fantasies? 

Thanks, August, for inviting me to weigh in! Click here to listen to my response. (Which starts at 1:40.)



Saturday, July 5, 2014

Curious is the New Sexy

You asked for it, you got it. My new workshop, "Kinky Curious: A Workshop of Discovery and Discussion" is coming to Los Angeles on July 26th. Details below!


Ready for an enticing event with an open-minded group? Interested in talking about sex in a safe and welcoming environment? Want to see a portion of the sexy play, "Coming Out Kinky"? It’s going to be an educational and fun session!



Here's what we'll do:



Opening Circle: This activity creates a safe, comfortable environment to talk about sexuality.



Coming Out Kinky: Jean will perform a sizzling excerpt of her show about erotic exploration and empowerment.



Q&A and Lively Discussion: the sharing during this section can be vulnerable, powerful and sexy



Sexual Bucket List Game – It's a fun way to discover avenues of curiosity



Cost: $30


To reserve your spot, email Jean@JeanFranzblau.com

About Kinky Jean: When Jean Franzblau was a little girl, she believed that sex must be bad and made the impossible commitment to never be sexual. The show tracks her unusual path of exploration as she discovers that sex is a natural and wonderful part of the human experience. Jean is the writer/performer and producer of the show, "Coming Out Kinky - A Grown Up Comedy." She's also a corporate training professional with experience giving presentations in six countries for up to three hundred people. She offers workshops, keynotes and performances on sexual esteem and empowerment - like this one!



Stay in touch at https://www.facebook.com/ComingOutKinky and here at KinkyJean.com.